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Lunchbox Love Notes

Connecting with your kids is an important part of being a parent. Sometimes this is an easy feat and sometimes it can be extremely difficult. Each child is unique and needs their own kind of connection. I was first a Mom to 3 daughters. Then I became a step Mom to 3 more great kids. I had to try and develop relationships with each of them. I was looking for a way to try and connect. Now I have 7 children to take care of. I need each of them to know that they are important to me and that I am involved in and know what is happening in their lives. I want them to be able to talk to me. I want them to know they are cared about and loved.


Becoming a blended family was an adjustment for all of us. As we all tried to adjust to our new found family, I thought about some things I could do to try and develop a closer bond. I remembered how my Mom would pack my school lunch every day. In it, I would always find a note on my napkin. It was something I always looked forward to. I still have one in my scrap book.


I had carried on this tradition with my 3 daughters when I packed their lunches for school. I decided this was a tradition that would help form a connection with each of my new children. So, I take a few extra minutes and write them each a note. That note goes on a napkin that goes into their lunch each day. At first it was difficult to think of things to say. Even now, after three and a half years, it is still difficult some days. I admit, there are days I would just rather go to bed. I'm tired and running behind. But I still sit down and write a note to each of my kids.


Some days I write a note of encouragement.


Some days I tell them a joke.


Some days I think of something good to praise them for.




Some days I thank them for something.


Sometimes I ask them about something I want them to think about.


Sometimes I tell them a secret.
Sometimes I draw them a picture.


I use the website of days to celebrate and talk about that when I can't think of anything to say. http://www.holidayinsights.com/moreholidays/

If you don't have time for a long note, a little note stuck to a treat would do the trick as well!


No matter what, I tell them I love them and I want them to know that I am thinking of them. I guess only time will tell if this is something that will make a huge difference in the long run. But I do know that even my tough teenage boys appreciate these notes. I asked if they read them and they said yes. I told them that writing the notes took time and if they weren't reading them or didn't like them, I would stop. I was assured that it was something they wanted me to continue. Although one of my daughters told me they loved the notes and looked forward to them but they always read them under the table because they were embarrassed. Another one of my teenage daughters kept each one of the napkins I had written her one year. I guess it goes to show that it's the little things that make a difference.

Do you have other ways that help you develop more meaningful relationships with your kids?